The old saying “Birds
of a feather flock together” appears to hold some truth when it comes to viewing
friendship among young adults. For example, the popular TV series Friends portrays how the six main characters share the same ethnicity, enjoy related
activities and have similar levels of social skills. Commonality to an extent,
is what fortifies friendships.
Young adults value
friendships to a large degree. This phase in life, when one has completed the
transition from an adolescent to an adult, involves an increase in
responsibilities. Yet, even with the burden of going to college, work, and
starting a family, young adults consider maintaining friendships to be of importance.
The quality and characteristics of friendships vary greatly. Friends may be
emotionally intimate, or frequently have conflicts with each other. They can
share a single interest, such as playing tennis, or have many shared interests
and ways of thinking. Married couples may have a great number of friends, yet
single adults rely more on friendship to fulfill their social needs. It is
evident that those who have close friends show a greater sense of well
being.
According to Robert
Sternberg, friendship is characterized by intimacy, and not passion or
commitment. Hence, one can feel close to another person, without feeling
passionate arousal and permanence. Emotional intimacy may grow even greater
than what existed during adolescence.
Can men
and women be just friends? At this juncture, adults have friends of both sexes.
Yet, adults tend to prefer same sex friendships throughout their lives. They
tend to have a larger number of friends of the same gender. Many friendships
between men and women may not continue after college, or one friend gets
married. Similar to earlier stages in life, women tend to confide more in each
other, and talk about their feelings. Men are more inclined to participate in
common activities and compete with each other, rather than confide in each
other. Friendship between men and women are often intimate and men are likely
to seek friendship with women whom they are attracted to. Around half of the
students in colleges report romantic involvement with friends of the opposite
sex.
Why
are friendships so important to young adults? One reason is because it supports
one’s development of identity, by providing opportunities for discussion on
various topics and beliefs. It also helps people to put themselves in another’s
shoes, and think through issues critically. Studies have shown that those who
have many close friendships tend to be healthier and live longer than their
socially isolated counterparts. The recipe for friendship is trust, respect and
mutual understanding, and is guaranteed to create a bond that lasts a lifetime.
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