Wednesday, September 4, 2013
FRIENDSHIP IN EARLY CHILDHOOD
Human beings are social
beings. Responsiveness is built in; we come into the world programmed to
respond and relate to others. During early childhood, the main
ingredients in forming friendships are opportunity and similarity. To become
friends, children need to be available to each other for play and other
activities. Children become good friends when they spend a lot of time playing
together, sharing toys, and enjoying the same games and activities. Friendships
are more likely to form when children are similar in characteristics such as
age, gender, race, attitudes, beliefs, or even play styles. Children
who are neighbors, relatives, or schoolmates spend more time with each other
and therefore have more opportunities to form friendships. The
friendships children have with each other are different than those they have
with parents and relatives. Family relationships provide an ease, a closeness,
a deep sense of intimacy. But they don't substitute for other relationships.
Starting young and continuing through adulthood, friendships are among the most
important activities of life.
Friendships are
important in helping children develop emotionally and socially. They provide a
training ground for trying out different ways of relating to others. Through
interacting with friends, children learn the give and take of social behavior
in general. They learn how to set up rules, how to weigh alternatives and make
decisions when faced with tough situations. They understand negative feelings such as , fear, anger,
aggression and rejection. They learn how to win, how to lose, what's right and
what's not. They learn about social standing and power - who's in, who's out,
how to lead and how to follow, what's fair and what's not. They learn that
different people and different situations call for different behaviors and they
come to understand the viewpoints of other people. Friends provide
companionship and stimulation for each other, and they find out who they are by
comparing themselves to other children - who's bigger, faster, who can add
better, who can catch better. They learn that they're both similar to and
different from others. Through friendships and belonging to a group, children
improve their sense of self-esteem. The solace and support of friends help
children cope with troubling times and through changing times - moving up to a
new school, entering adolescence, dealing with family stresses, facing
disappointments.
Friendships are not
just a luxury; they are a necessity for healthy psychological development.
Research shows that children with friends have a greater sense of well-being,
better self-esteem and fewer social problems as adults than individuals without
friends. On the other hand, children with friendship problems are more likely
than other children to feel lonely, to be victimized by peers, to have problems
adjusting to school, and to engage in deviant behaviors.
FRIENDSHIP IN MIDDLE CHILDHOOD
As children become more mature physically, cognitively, and emotionally, their social relationships with family and peers also mature and change. During middle childhood, peer friendships take on a more prominent role than ever before. Peer relationships can include friends at school, friends in the neighborhood, teammates or other co-participants in activities like Boy or Girl Scouts, and near-age siblings. During this middle developmental period, as communication and cognitive skills continue to improve, children develop increased interpersonal awareness. As a result, they become better at reading and responding to other kids' emotions, and understanding other kids' intentions and needs; why they behave in specific ways at specific times. These social skills lay the foundation for the formation of closer friendships
During middle childhood, kids become
more competent and confident. Parents begin to place trust in the child,
allowing him to take on daily tasks such as selecting his own clothes and
making his own breakfast. Family friendships are still vital, but children are
far less clingy at this age. While
cognitive growth also plays an important role in this progression, a great deal
of social and emotional growth also occurs during middle childhood. As children
start school, their social world becomes much larger. Where most of their
previous social interactions were primarily with family, the introduction of
school opens up a whole new world of relationships with other people. This
offers kids a much richer and deeper pool of social experiences with both
familiar and unfamiliar people.
Friendships become increasingly
important throughout the middle school years. While kids obviously still depend
upon their parents and enjoy spending time with siblings, they also become more
interested in building relationships with other people outside the family unit.
Learning how to make and maintain friendships is an important part of the
developmental process during this time. Few things can make a parent's heart
ache more than to watch your child struggle to find friends or grapple with
social rejection or even bullying behaviors from other kids. Fortunately, there
are things that parents can do to ensure that their child is gaining the social
competence that they need to succeed in school and later in life.
HOW ADULTS CAN ENSURE HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIPS:
Healthy friendships are marked by
cooperation, kindness, trust, and mutual respect. So what should parents do if
their child seems to be in an unhealthy friendship? Remembering that all
friendships have their ups and downs can be helpful. The occasional conflicts
or arguments are not necessarily a sign that the relationship is destructive or
unhealthy. If, however, the friendship becomes a source of stress or anxiety,
then it's time to take action. Parents should start by talking to their child
and encouraging him to share his feelings with the friend. Adults should also
help children understand the importance of walking away from the situation,
especially if the friend is being physically or emotionally hurtful. Finally,
parents and other adults can try to establish some distance between the child
and the friend. For example, a teacher might choose to seat kids who are having
conflicts apart from each other.
FRIENDSHIP IN ADOLESCENCE
As children enter
into adolescence, the nature of their peer relationships undergoes significant
change as teens spend increasingly more time in the company of their same-age
friends. Adolescent friendships then gradually deepen in terms of levels of commitment,
intimacy, and acceptance of differences among friends. Functioning in these
evolving friendships has been linked with both negative outcomes ranging from
depression to deviance and positive outcomes including pro social behavior and
academic achievement. Adolescents like younger children, tend to choose friends
who are like them and friends influence each other to become even more alike.
Friends are not necessarily of the same race or
ethnicity. Friends do tend to have similar academic attitudes and performances
and have similar status within the peer group. Since many characteristics that
make children or adolescents attractive or unattractive to peers are
genetically influenced, its not surprising that genes seem to play a part in
choice of friends and may help explain why tend to have similar qualities. The
choice of antisocial peers is mainly affected by environmental factors.
The intensity and importance of friendships as well
as time spent with friends are probably greater in adolescence than at any
other time in the life span. Friendships become more reciprocal. Early
adolescents tend to rely more on friends than on parents for intimacy and
support, and they share confidences more than younger friends. A stress on
intimacy, loyalty and sharing marks a transition to adult like friendships.
Intimacy with same sex friends increase during early to middle adolescence,
after which it typically declines as intimacy with the other sex grows.
Adolescents’ perceptions of their close
relationships also change with development, and this change in friendship views
might also be expected to vary as a function of ego development level. Ego
development is concurrently related to more secure states of mind with respect
to attachment, and individuals who acquire higher levels of ego development
report higher levels of interpersonal understanding and disclo
The increased
intimacy of adolescent friendship reflects cognitive as well as emotional
development. Adolescents are now better able to express their private thoughts
and feelings. They also can more readily consider another person’s point of
view, and so it is easier for them to understand a friend’s thoughts and
feelings. Confiding in a friend helps young people explore their own feelings,
define their identity and validate their self worth. Friendship provides a safe
place to venture opinions, admit weaknesses, and get help with problems.
The capacity of intimacy is related to psycho social development and social competence. Those who have close, stable, supportive
friendships generally have a high opinion of themselves, do well in school, are sociable, and are
unlikely to be hostile, anxious or depressed. Shared confidences and emotional
support seem to be more vital to female friendships than to male friendships.
Boys focus less on conversations than on shared activity, usually sports and
competitive games. Girls feel better telling a friend about an upsetting
experience than boys do. Boys may express support by just spending time doing
things together. Boys tend to gain self-esteem from competing with friends, and
girls from helping them.FRIENDSHIP IN EARLY ADULTHOOD
The old saying “Birds
of a feather flock together” appears to hold some truth when it comes to viewing
friendship among young adults. For example, the popular TV series Friends portrays how the six main characters share the same ethnicity, enjoy related
activities and have similar levels of social skills. Commonality to an extent,
is what fortifies friendships.
Young adults value
friendships to a large degree. This phase in life, when one has completed the
transition from an adolescent to an adult, involves an increase in
responsibilities. Yet, even with the burden of going to college, work, and
starting a family, young adults consider maintaining friendships to be of importance.
The quality and characteristics of friendships vary greatly. Friends may be
emotionally intimate, or frequently have conflicts with each other. They can
share a single interest, such as playing tennis, or have many shared interests
and ways of thinking. Married couples may have a great number of friends, yet
single adults rely more on friendship to fulfill their social needs. It is
evident that those who have close friends show a greater sense of well
being.
According to Robert
Sternberg, friendship is characterized by intimacy, and not passion or
commitment. Hence, one can feel close to another person, without feeling
passionate arousal and permanence. Emotional intimacy may grow even greater
than what existed during adolescence.
Can men
and women be just friends? At this juncture, adults have friends of both sexes.
Yet, adults tend to prefer same sex friendships throughout their lives. They
tend to have a larger number of friends of the same gender. Many friendships
between men and women may not continue after college, or one friend gets
married. Similar to earlier stages in life, women tend to confide more in each
other, and talk about their feelings. Men are more inclined to participate in
common activities and compete with each other, rather than confide in each
other. Friendship between men and women are often intimate and men are likely
to seek friendship with women whom they are attracted to. Around half of the
students in colleges report romantic involvement with friends of the opposite
sex.
Why
are friendships so important to young adults? One reason is because it supports
one’s development of identity, by providing opportunities for discussion on
various topics and beliefs. It also helps people to put themselves in another’s
shoes, and think through issues critically. Studies have shown that those who
have many close friendships tend to be healthier and live longer than their
socially isolated counterparts. The recipe for friendship is trust, respect and
mutual understanding, and is guaranteed to create a bond that lasts a lifetime.
FRIENDSHIPS IN MIDDLE ADULTHOOD
In midlife, generally defined as the period between young
adulthood and old age, friendships provide affection, companionship,
understanding, and social support and therefore contribute to well-being.
Friends can also affect the status, power, wealth, attitudes, behaviors, and
values of middle-aged people. In addition to these consequences for
individuals, midlife friendship patterns can affect society, such as by
reinforcing the class structure and upholding the institution of marriage.
Friendship is thus an important type of human relationship during this stage of
life. This entry synthesizes what is known about the interactive processes
exchanged between friends during midlife, the internal structure of midlife
friendships, and how these friendships vary across contexts and individual
demographic characteristics.
Although some people may remain friends for life; in
actuality, there is a shifting process in friendship formations that we go
through during adult life. Social address theories of adult friendship
formation stipulate that friendship maintenance is easiest when two adults are
at the same “developmental social address.” For example, two adults who are
both married and have small children are more likely to forge relationships and
maintain a friendship than an adult with children and a single, childless
adult. Likewise, a friendship may be strained if one adult changes a
developmental address (gets married) and another does not (stays single).
As compared with younger people, many middle aged people
have less time and energy to devote to friends. They are too busy with family
and work and with building up security for retirement. Still friendships do
exist and are a strong source of emotional support and wellbeing, especially
for women. Friendships often revolve around work and parenting. The quality of
midlife friendships often makes up for what they lack in quantity of time
spent. Especially during a crisis, such as a divorce, adults turn to friends
for emotional support, practice guidance, comfort and talk. Middle-aged adults place value
on the friends they do have. Their friends tend to mirror them in interests,
activities and years of mutual experiences. Adults in middle adulthood tend to have a lower number of
friends.FRIENDSHIP IN LATE ADULTHOOD
There
are several aspects of life that change as a person grows old. This write up
explores few theories that explain ageing as well as affect ageing either
directly or indirectly and the importance of friendships in late adulthood.
Ageism
~Prejudice
against a person because of their age
OLDER ADULTS
~cultural emphasis on growth strength and progress
~respect for the youth
~increasing age segregation
OLDER ADULTS
~cultural emphasis on growth strength and progress
~respect for the youth
~increasing age segregation
Cellular
clock theory
-Leonard
Hayflick's (1977) theory that cells can divide a maximum of about 75 to 80
times and that, as we age, our cells become less capable of dividing.
Free-radical
theory
-
people age because when cells metabolize energy, the by-products include
unstable oxygen molecules known as free radicals . The free radicals ricochet
around the cells, damaging DNA and other cellular structures (Afanas'ev, 2009).
The damage can lead to a range of disorders, including cancer and arthritis
What
is activity theory?
The
more active a person is throughout the corse of their life is directly related
to the happiness felt in late adulthood--positive reflection (integrity)
How do the five senses changes in late
adulthood?
Vision-
visual acuity, color recognition, depth perception decline
~cataracts: thickening of lens
~Glaucoma: optic nerve damage
~Macular degeneration: deterioration of the retina
Hearing- degeneration of cochlea
smell and taste- loss of some ability
touch and pain- only minor change
~cataracts: thickening of lens
~Glaucoma: optic nerve damage
~Macular degeneration: deterioration of the retina
Hearing- degeneration of cochlea
smell and taste- loss of some ability
touch and pain- only minor change
Integrity
vs Despair:
realizing death is close people reflect and review upon their life I) -satisfaction: piecing together a positive review D)- Realizing one's life was not well spent, reflection is negative. characterized by isolation in early adulthood being unable to create meaningful relationships
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~people who are still married have happier
lives, being less stressful adding to positive health consequences
Social consequences of divorce
Weaken kinship ties when it occurs in later
life, especially in the case of older men
What is the main reason older adults choose
to cohabit?
~Companionship is the main reason why the
number of Cohabiting older adults chose to live together
~followed closely by financial reasons- cost of living is less
~followed closely by financial reasons- cost of living is less
What are benefits of friendship in late
adulthood?
~having a group of close friends in late
adulthood helps to lower mortality rates, and symptoms of disease
~less likely to go to a assisted living
~less likely to go to a assisted living
What are the two other components of
successful aging?
1.)
Productivity
-contribution to social network
-willingness to take on complex challenges
~New pursuits
-contribution to social network
-willingness to take on complex challenges
~New pursuits
2.)Life
satisfaction
~sense of personal well being
~Perception is important
~Social comparisons
~sense of personal well being
~Perception is important
~Social comparisons
http://quizlet.com/8560893/psych-late-adulthood-flash-cards/
http://rcgates.com/psyc/c24_pv.html
http://www.searchquotes.com/search/Late_Adulthood/
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
TRY AND BE A GOOD FRIEND-THIS WILL HELP YOU!
Everybody needs friends. You can feel very sad and lonely if you
don't have someone to play with and be with - it
happens to everybody sometimes. Here are some ideas to help you in
making friends and keeping friends. Having
friends is also
about how to be a
friend and how
to be a friend to yourself!
Did you know?
You can be your own best friend.
Sounds weird?
Think about it.
Who are you with all the time? Yourself.
So, take some time to really get to know yourself.
Start by asking yourself some questions.
Who am I?
·
Am I a friendly person?
·
Am I a positive person who looks forward to each day?
·
Am I a good listener?
·
What am I good at?
·
What do I like to do in my spare time?
·
What do I like about my looks?
·
Do I like myself?
You will have times when you mess up or feel ashamed about
things you may have said or done, but you're still OK as a person - believe it
or not that happens to everyone, even parents and teachers!
If you are feeling sad and can't seem to find things that you
like about yourself, here is something you can do.
If you like yourself, others
will probably like you too.
If someone doesn't like you don't worry - you can't expect
everyone to like you. After all, you don't like everyone either, do you?
You can show what a nice person you are by always being pleasant
and good mannered - even to people you don't like.
What is friendship?
·
Spending
time together.
·
Sharing ideas and treats.
·
Having fun.
·
Respecting each other's differences.
·
Loyalty, sticking up for each other.
·
Caring for each other's safety and wellbeing.
·
Both of you working on the skills to keep your friendship going.
Friendship skills
How to be a friend!
Always
·
Talk - be interesting, keep up with what's going on around you, eg
TV, sports, music, shared interests - so that you have something to talk about.
·
Share the
conversation, so that you each get a chance to be listeners and talkers.
·
Listen to what
your friends are saying and ask questions about it.
·
Praise your
friends when they do something well.
·
Use your manners - say
please and thank you. Friends like to be pleasant to each other.
·
Think of yourself as being a friendly person, look friendly and be friendly - and
others will find you friendly.
·
Be helpful - do
things for your friends without keeping a score on who's done the most favours.
·
Give back things
you have used or borrowed from each other (this is a good idea for brothers and
sisters, too).
·
Be
aware of others' feelings - think before you speak. (Sometimes it is a good idea to keep
your thoughts to yourself rather than upset people's feelings.)
·
Handle conflict - by
being clear about what you want and how you will compromise.
·
Share your time with
other friends.
·
Be honest about
your feelings, eg. "I don't think this is a good idea because…" But
don't always try to be the leader - try out other people's ideas.
·
Try to understand people
by thinking about things from their point of view.
·
Don't argue and get
upset if your friend doesn't agree with you about something. That's O.K. She
has the right to an opinion too.
Things you should try not to do:
·
Don't brag about
what you've got or done.
·
No put downs - you
wouldn't like it if someone did this to you.
·
No prejudice - don't
make comments about country, colour, religion or physical appearance. "If
you can't find anything nice to say about someone, say nothing," is a good
motto for everybody.
·
Don't take over - let others tell their own jokes and news.
·
Don't fight your
friends' battles. You can support your friends by helping them to deal with
their problems:
o Be a
good listener
o Help
them to stay safe.
o Encourage
them to try.
o Be
there when they need you to be.
o Help
them to make good choices.
o Encourage
them to look for help from trusted adults.
·
Don't talk about them without
their permission.
You are a unique (only one like you) person with lots of different sides to your character, so you can have different friends who share your different interests, eg friends at school, in your street, in sport clubs, at church, in your family, etc.
It's good to have a best friend but it's good to have other
friends too.
What makes a good friend?
·
Having equal shares, not one always the leader and the other
following.
·
Having lots of fun together (if not, you'd better look for
another friend!)
·
Both of you working at keeping the friendship.Giving each other
some space.
·
Even best friends need some time to be alone or with other
friends, so don't try to 'own' each other.
·
Respecting each other's differences.
·
Feeling safe talking to each other about your feelings and
problems.
·
Trusting each other and looking out for each other.
Being 'popular', and
having real friends, is not always the same thing.
Most adults would think themselves really lucky to have one true
friend - someone they can trust and rely on for their help and support when
they need it. Real friendship lasts through good times and bad times.
Remember: Good friends can play with other people sometimes and still be
friends.
WHAT KIND OF A FRIEND ARE YOU? FIND OUT!
1. Some friends in your group are making fun of
your bestfriend’s new braces. You
a. join in
b. say nothing
c. tell them they’re justjealous of the pretty teeth
she’s going
to have and then walk away
2. You really wanted to be editor of the yearbook,
but your
best friend is chosen instead. You
a. congratulate her and are genuinely happy for her
b. say ”whatever” and try for a spot on the school
paper
c. accuse her of sabotaging your career goals and nd
another
best friend
3. You tell your best friend you’re getting a new
dog and
you’re going to name her Sparkles. Nextthing you
know, she’s
got a new dog named Sparkles! You
a. yell at her for copying you and tell her to nd a
new friend
b. go ahead and name your dog Sparkles – besides,
your dog
is cuter!
c. choose another name for your dog and teach her to
attack
your former best friend’s dog (kidding!)
4. You’re home sick with the u. Your best friend
never calls
or stops by to see how you’re doing. So when she
comes down
with the u, you
a. decide to be a kinder, gentler best friend and
bring her a
get-well care package
b. don’t call. Two can play this game.
c. call her, then vividly describe the symptomsstill
to come!
5. You and Suzie made plans to go to the mall. Then
Brianna
calls and invites you to go skiing. You love skiing!
You
a. tell Suzie about Bri’s invite and ask if it’d be
all right ifthe
two of you went to the mall the next day (since you
don’t get to
go skiing that often)
b. politely thank Brianna for the invite buttell her
you already
have plans
c. tell Brianna, “Yes! I’ll be ready in 10,”then
call Suzie with
a made-up story about not feeling well
6. You and some friends are planning a skating party
at
the local rink. You really don’t wantto invite your
friend Alex
because she’s so bad at skating, it’s embarrassing.
After thinking about it, you
a. invite her. After all, she’s only going to embarrass
herself.
b. don’t invite her. Hey, you’re saving her from
embarrassment!
c. invite her, then schedule some practice time
before hand to
help her out
7. Your friend borrows one of your favorite shirts.
When she
returns it, she thanks you, but doesn’t mention the
big stain on
the front of it. You
a.scream at her for ruining your favorite shirt,
then demand
that she pay you in full for it
b. ask her calmly what happened; maybe there’s a
good
explanation.
c. don’tsay anything, but vow to borrow one of her
fave items
in the future and ruin it!
ANSWERS:
a=1;b=2;c=3.
2) a=3; b=2;c=1. 3)a=1; b=3;c=2. 4)a=3;b=2;c=1. 5)a=2;b=3;c=1.6) a=2;b=1;c=3. a=2;b=3;c=1.
18-21 points: Great
friend
10-17 points: Fairly
good friend
7-10 points: Fair
weather friend
FRIENDSHIP THEORIES
THEORIES
THAT INCREASE FRIENDSHIP
1.
THEORY
OF FRIENDSHIP-
Description
Factors which increase the chance of making friends
include:
Similarity: How much we have in common with them
(‘birds of a feather’). Similar friends provide social validation for our
beliefs, characteristics, etc. In practice, opposites seldom attract.
Proximity: The Propinquity Effect leads us to like
most people we see often.
Reciprocity: We like people who like us and dislike
those who dislike us.
Beauty: Physical attraction counts, although how it
is defined varies around the world.
Competence: We like people who are competent (but
they should not be too perfect).
Example
Think about your friends. How many have the above
characteristics? What about people who you see to whom you feel immediate
attraction?
So
what?
Using it
To win trust, build friendship.
Defending
Your friends are not always your friends. Trust
based on long evidence.
2.
Ben Franklin Effect-Jecker and
Landy (1969)
Description
When we do a person a favor, we tend to like them more as a
result. This is because we justify our actions to ourselves that we did them a
favor because we liked them.
Benjamin Franklin himself said, "He that has once done you a
kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have
obliged."
The reverse effect is also true, and we come to hate our victims,
which helps to explain wartime atrocities. We de-humanize the enemy, which
decrease the dissonance of killing and other things in which we would never normally
indulge.
Research
Jecker
and Landy (1969) involved students in an intellectual contest where they could
win significant money. Afterwards:
- A: 1/3 were approached by the
researcher and asked to return money as he had been using his own funds
and was running short.
- B: 1/3 were approached by a
secretary and asked to return money as it was from the psychology
department and funds were low.
- C: 1/3 were not approached.
Then all
were surveyed to see how much they liked the researcher. Group B rated him lower
than Group C (so impersonal request for a favor decreases liking). Group A rated him higher than
group C (so personal request for a favor increases liking).
So
what?
Using it
Ask
people to do you a small favor. Don’t return it immediately.
Defending
When
people ask you for favors, watch out for feeling better about them.
STAGES OF FRIENDSHIP
1. SOCIAL PENETRATION THEORY- Altman and Taylor
(1987)
Description
As
relationships develop, they penetrate deeper and deeper into private and personal matters. This
exposes vulnerabilities, so trust has to be developed along the way.
Penetration
goes through a number of stages.
1.
Orientation stage.
Here, we play safe with small talk and simple, harmless clichés like ‘Life’s
like that’, following standards of social desirability and norms of
appropriateness.
2.
Exploratory affective stage. We now start to reveal ourselves, expressing personal attitudes about
moderate topics such as government and education. This may not be the whole
truth as we are not yet comfortable to lay ourselves bare. We are still feeling
our way forward. This is the stage of casual friendship, and many relationships
do not go past this stage.
3.
Affective stage. Now we start to talk about private and personal matters.
We may use personal idioms. Criticism and arguments may arise. There may be
intimate touching and kissing at this stage.
4.
Stable stage. The relationship now reaches a plateau
in which personal things are shared and each can predict the emotional
reactions of the other person.
5.
Depenetration. When
the relationship starts to break down and costs exceed benefits, then there is
a withdrawal of disclosure which leads to termination of the relationship.
Example
This can
be seen in conversations at parties, as strangers steadily chat each other
up.
So
what?
Using
it
In building a relationship,
notice the stages and do not try to hurry things too much. For example do not
get too intimate in your touching when the other person is still reticent.
Defending
Know how far and how fast you
want to go in a relationship. Do not let the other person hurry or push you.
2.
STAGE
THEORY-Levinger (1976)
Description
Stage theories in general describe how we go through distinct
stages as we develop. Thus, rather than gradually changing, we typically make
sudden shifts to different plateaus of perception and behavior. This may be
associated with 'aha's of sudden understanding.
Levinger's
Relationship Stage Theory
Relationships go through a series of stages as they mature.
Levinger's model has ABCDE stages.
A = Acquaintance/attraction. We meet other people and feel
an initial attraction, often based on physical beauty and similarity.
B = Build-up. We become increasingly interdependent as
we reveal more and more about our private selves. We get irritated by one
another, but the more pleasant aspects may well keep the relationship going.
C = Continuation/consolidation. Longer-term
commitments are made, such as marriage. The partnership enters what may be a
life-long stable relationship.
D = Deterioration. Many relationships decay, due
to several factors. These include relative effort, rewards, barriers to exit
(such as marriage and social obligation) and the availability of alternatives.
E = Ending. The relationship ends when partners agree
to separate or one leaves.
Example
Compare the above list with your relationships. There is a good
chance many will fit closely.
So what?
Using it
Understand the stage of the relationships you are in. If you want
to sustain them, act to prevent deterioration. If you want to end them, get
through the deterioration as soon as possible!
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