FORMING FRIENDSHIPS AND SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
Wednesday, September 4, 2013
FRIENDSHIP IN EARLY CHILDHOOD
Human beings are social
beings. Responsiveness is built in; we come into the world programmed to
respond and relate to others. During early childhood, the main
ingredients in forming friendships are opportunity and similarity. To become
friends, children need to be available to each other for play and other
activities. Children become good friends when they spend a lot of time playing
together, sharing toys, and enjoying the same games and activities. Friendships
are more likely to form when children are similar in characteristics such as
age, gender, race, attitudes, beliefs, or even play styles. Children
who are neighbors, relatives, or schoolmates spend more time with each other
and therefore have more opportunities to form friendships. The
friendships children have with each other are different than those they have
with parents and relatives. Family relationships provide an ease, a closeness,
a deep sense of intimacy. But they don't substitute for other relationships.
Starting young and continuing through adulthood, friendships are among the most
important activities of life.
Friendships are
important in helping children develop emotionally and socially. They provide a
training ground for trying out different ways of relating to others. Through
interacting with friends, children learn the give and take of social behavior
in general. They learn how to set up rules, how to weigh alternatives and make
decisions when faced with tough situations. They understand negative feelings such as , fear, anger,
aggression and rejection. They learn how to win, how to lose, what's right and
what's not. They learn about social standing and power - who's in, who's out,
how to lead and how to follow, what's fair and what's not. They learn that
different people and different situations call for different behaviors and they
come to understand the viewpoints of other people. Friends provide
companionship and stimulation for each other, and they find out who they are by
comparing themselves to other children - who's bigger, faster, who can add
better, who can catch better. They learn that they're both similar to and
different from others. Through friendships and belonging to a group, children
improve their sense of self-esteem. The solace and support of friends help
children cope with troubling times and through changing times - moving up to a
new school, entering adolescence, dealing with family stresses, facing
disappointments.
Friendships are not
just a luxury; they are a necessity for healthy psychological development.
Research shows that children with friends have a greater sense of well-being,
better self-esteem and fewer social problems as adults than individuals without
friends. On the other hand, children with friendship problems are more likely
than other children to feel lonely, to be victimized by peers, to have problems
adjusting to school, and to engage in deviant behaviors.
FRIENDSHIP IN MIDDLE CHILDHOOD
As children become more mature physically, cognitively, and emotionally, their social relationships with family and peers also mature and change. During middle childhood, peer friendships take on a more prominent role than ever before. Peer relationships can include friends at school, friends in the neighborhood, teammates or other co-participants in activities like Boy or Girl Scouts, and near-age siblings. During this middle developmental period, as communication and cognitive skills continue to improve, children develop increased interpersonal awareness. As a result, they become better at reading and responding to other kids' emotions, and understanding other kids' intentions and needs; why they behave in specific ways at specific times. These social skills lay the foundation for the formation of closer friendships
During middle childhood, kids become
more competent and confident. Parents begin to place trust in the child,
allowing him to take on daily tasks such as selecting his own clothes and
making his own breakfast. Family friendships are still vital, but children are
far less clingy at this age. While
cognitive growth also plays an important role in this progression, a great deal
of social and emotional growth also occurs during middle childhood. As children
start school, their social world becomes much larger. Where most of their
previous social interactions were primarily with family, the introduction of
school opens up a whole new world of relationships with other people. This
offers kids a much richer and deeper pool of social experiences with both
familiar and unfamiliar people.
Friendships become increasingly
important throughout the middle school years. While kids obviously still depend
upon their parents and enjoy spending time with siblings, they also become more
interested in building relationships with other people outside the family unit.
Learning how to make and maintain friendships is an important part of the
developmental process during this time. Few things can make a parent's heart
ache more than to watch your child struggle to find friends or grapple with
social rejection or even bullying behaviors from other kids. Fortunately, there
are things that parents can do to ensure that their child is gaining the social
competence that they need to succeed in school and later in life.
HOW ADULTS CAN ENSURE HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIPS:
Healthy friendships are marked by
cooperation, kindness, trust, and mutual respect. So what should parents do if
their child seems to be in an unhealthy friendship? Remembering that all
friendships have their ups and downs can be helpful. The occasional conflicts
or arguments are not necessarily a sign that the relationship is destructive or
unhealthy. If, however, the friendship becomes a source of stress or anxiety,
then it's time to take action. Parents should start by talking to their child
and encouraging him to share his feelings with the friend. Adults should also
help children understand the importance of walking away from the situation,
especially if the friend is being physically or emotionally hurtful. Finally,
parents and other adults can try to establish some distance between the child
and the friend. For example, a teacher might choose to seat kids who are having
conflicts apart from each other.
FRIENDSHIP IN ADOLESCENCE
As children enter
into adolescence, the nature of their peer relationships undergoes significant
change as teens spend increasingly more time in the company of their same-age
friends. Adolescent friendships then gradually deepen in terms of levels of commitment,
intimacy, and acceptance of differences among friends. Functioning in these
evolving friendships has been linked with both negative outcomes ranging from
depression to deviance and positive outcomes including pro social behavior and
academic achievement. Adolescents like younger children, tend to choose friends
who are like them and friends influence each other to become even more alike.
Friends are not necessarily of the same race or
ethnicity. Friends do tend to have similar academic attitudes and performances
and have similar status within the peer group. Since many characteristics that
make children or adolescents attractive or unattractive to peers are
genetically influenced, its not surprising that genes seem to play a part in
choice of friends and may help explain why tend to have similar qualities. The
choice of antisocial peers is mainly affected by environmental factors.
The intensity and importance of friendships as well
as time spent with friends are probably greater in adolescence than at any
other time in the life span. Friendships become more reciprocal. Early
adolescents tend to rely more on friends than on parents for intimacy and
support, and they share confidences more than younger friends. A stress on
intimacy, loyalty and sharing marks a transition to adult like friendships.
Intimacy with same sex friends increase during early to middle adolescence,
after which it typically declines as intimacy with the other sex grows.
Adolescents’ perceptions of their close
relationships also change with development, and this change in friendship views
might also be expected to vary as a function of ego development level. Ego
development is concurrently related to more secure states of mind with respect
to attachment, and individuals who acquire higher levels of ego development
report higher levels of interpersonal understanding and disclo
The increased
intimacy of adolescent friendship reflects cognitive as well as emotional
development. Adolescents are now better able to express their private thoughts
and feelings. They also can more readily consider another person’s point of
view, and so it is easier for them to understand a friend’s thoughts and
feelings. Confiding in a friend helps young people explore their own feelings,
define their identity and validate their self worth. Friendship provides a safe
place to venture opinions, admit weaknesses, and get help with problems.
The capacity of intimacy is related to psycho social development and social competence. Those who have close, stable, supportive
friendships generally have a high opinion of themselves, do well in school, are sociable, and are
unlikely to be hostile, anxious or depressed. Shared confidences and emotional
support seem to be more vital to female friendships than to male friendships.
Boys focus less on conversations than on shared activity, usually sports and
competitive games. Girls feel better telling a friend about an upsetting
experience than boys do. Boys may express support by just spending time doing
things together. Boys tend to gain self-esteem from competing with friends, and
girls from helping them.FRIENDSHIP IN EARLY ADULTHOOD
The old saying “Birds
of a feather flock together” appears to hold some truth when it comes to viewing
friendship among young adults. For example, the popular TV series Friends portrays how the six main characters share the same ethnicity, enjoy related
activities and have similar levels of social skills. Commonality to an extent,
is what fortifies friendships.
Young adults value
friendships to a large degree. This phase in life, when one has completed the
transition from an adolescent to an adult, involves an increase in
responsibilities. Yet, even with the burden of going to college, work, and
starting a family, young adults consider maintaining friendships to be of importance.
The quality and characteristics of friendships vary greatly. Friends may be
emotionally intimate, or frequently have conflicts with each other. They can
share a single interest, such as playing tennis, or have many shared interests
and ways of thinking. Married couples may have a great number of friends, yet
single adults rely more on friendship to fulfill their social needs. It is
evident that those who have close friends show a greater sense of well
being.
According to Robert
Sternberg, friendship is characterized by intimacy, and not passion or
commitment. Hence, one can feel close to another person, without feeling
passionate arousal and permanence. Emotional intimacy may grow even greater
than what existed during adolescence.
Can men
and women be just friends? At this juncture, adults have friends of both sexes.
Yet, adults tend to prefer same sex friendships throughout their lives. They
tend to have a larger number of friends of the same gender. Many friendships
between men and women may not continue after college, or one friend gets
married. Similar to earlier stages in life, women tend to confide more in each
other, and talk about their feelings. Men are more inclined to participate in
common activities and compete with each other, rather than confide in each
other. Friendship between men and women are often intimate and men are likely
to seek friendship with women whom they are attracted to. Around half of the
students in colleges report romantic involvement with friends of the opposite
sex.
Why
are friendships so important to young adults? One reason is because it supports
one’s development of identity, by providing opportunities for discussion on
various topics and beliefs. It also helps people to put themselves in another’s
shoes, and think through issues critically. Studies have shown that those who
have many close friendships tend to be healthier and live longer than their
socially isolated counterparts. The recipe for friendship is trust, respect and
mutual understanding, and is guaranteed to create a bond that lasts a lifetime.
FRIENDSHIPS IN MIDDLE ADULTHOOD
In midlife, generally defined as the period between young
adulthood and old age, friendships provide affection, companionship,
understanding, and social support and therefore contribute to well-being.
Friends can also affect the status, power, wealth, attitudes, behaviors, and
values of middle-aged people. In addition to these consequences for
individuals, midlife friendship patterns can affect society, such as by
reinforcing the class structure and upholding the institution of marriage.
Friendship is thus an important type of human relationship during this stage of
life. This entry synthesizes what is known about the interactive processes
exchanged between friends during midlife, the internal structure of midlife
friendships, and how these friendships vary across contexts and individual
demographic characteristics.
Although some people may remain friends for life; in
actuality, there is a shifting process in friendship formations that we go
through during adult life. Social address theories of adult friendship
formation stipulate that friendship maintenance is easiest when two adults are
at the same “developmental social address.” For example, two adults who are
both married and have small children are more likely to forge relationships and
maintain a friendship than an adult with children and a single, childless
adult. Likewise, a friendship may be strained if one adult changes a
developmental address (gets married) and another does not (stays single).
As compared with younger people, many middle aged people
have less time and energy to devote to friends. They are too busy with family
and work and with building up security for retirement. Still friendships do
exist and are a strong source of emotional support and wellbeing, especially
for women. Friendships often revolve around work and parenting. The quality of
midlife friendships often makes up for what they lack in quantity of time
spent. Especially during a crisis, such as a divorce, adults turn to friends
for emotional support, practice guidance, comfort and talk. Middle-aged adults place value
on the friends they do have. Their friends tend to mirror them in interests,
activities and years of mutual experiences. Adults in middle adulthood tend to have a lower number of
friends.FRIENDSHIP IN LATE ADULTHOOD
There
are several aspects of life that change as a person grows old. This write up
explores few theories that explain ageing as well as affect ageing either
directly or indirectly and the importance of friendships in late adulthood.
Ageism
~Prejudice
against a person because of their age
OLDER ADULTS
~cultural emphasis on growth strength and progress
~respect for the youth
~increasing age segregation
OLDER ADULTS
~cultural emphasis on growth strength and progress
~respect for the youth
~increasing age segregation
Cellular
clock theory
-Leonard
Hayflick's (1977) theory that cells can divide a maximum of about 75 to 80
times and that, as we age, our cells become less capable of dividing.
Free-radical
theory
-
people age because when cells metabolize energy, the by-products include
unstable oxygen molecules known as free radicals . The free radicals ricochet
around the cells, damaging DNA and other cellular structures (Afanas'ev, 2009).
The damage can lead to a range of disorders, including cancer and arthritis
What
is activity theory?
The
more active a person is throughout the corse of their life is directly related
to the happiness felt in late adulthood--positive reflection (integrity)
How do the five senses changes in late
adulthood?
Vision-
visual acuity, color recognition, depth perception decline
~cataracts: thickening of lens
~Glaucoma: optic nerve damage
~Macular degeneration: deterioration of the retina
Hearing- degeneration of cochlea
smell and taste- loss of some ability
touch and pain- only minor change
~cataracts: thickening of lens
~Glaucoma: optic nerve damage
~Macular degeneration: deterioration of the retina
Hearing- degeneration of cochlea
smell and taste- loss of some ability
touch and pain- only minor change
Integrity
vs Despair:
realizing death is close people reflect and review upon their life I) -satisfaction: piecing together a positive review D)- Realizing one's life was not well spent, reflection is negative. characterized by isolation in early adulthood being unable to create meaningful relationships
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~people who are still married have happier
lives, being less stressful adding to positive health consequences
Social consequences of divorce
Weaken kinship ties when it occurs in later
life, especially in the case of older men
What is the main reason older adults choose
to cohabit?
~Companionship is the main reason why the
number of Cohabiting older adults chose to live together
~followed closely by financial reasons- cost of living is less
~followed closely by financial reasons- cost of living is less
What are benefits of friendship in late
adulthood?
~having a group of close friends in late
adulthood helps to lower mortality rates, and symptoms of disease
~less likely to go to a assisted living
~less likely to go to a assisted living
What are the two other components of
successful aging?
1.)
Productivity
-contribution to social network
-willingness to take on complex challenges
~New pursuits
-contribution to social network
-willingness to take on complex challenges
~New pursuits
2.)Life
satisfaction
~sense of personal well being
~Perception is important
~Social comparisons
~sense of personal well being
~Perception is important
~Social comparisons
http://quizlet.com/8560893/psych-late-adulthood-flash-cards/
http://rcgates.com/psyc/c24_pv.html
http://www.searchquotes.com/search/Late_Adulthood/
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